Cate Blanchett wins the Oscars on more than one level
Lupita Nyong’o (via sonofafieldnegro)
this is so important. too many actors fail to thank the people they play on screen. They often think they are those people and that they have actually done something through acting a part. Lupita knows the importance of playing the role of Patsey, but she always pays tribute to this real historical person and all the Patseys who have suffered. Lupita reminds everyone that Patsey is very real. That Solomon Northrup’s story is very real. This history from this movie is real and we must not forget. Thank you, Lupita. You’re an angel.
Jenn and I are just going to leave this here.
Hopefully you all get the point :)))))
So. I’ve wanted to say this for a while, and the last and first hours of the year are as good a time as any, so here goes…
I want to thank the Millennial Generation, the ones especially here on Tumblr. I want to tell you thank you from the bottom of my heart. I am thanking you as a middle aged person who is often burdened by her cynicism and experience, but I am especially thanking you as a mother. Let me tell you why:
It is New Year’s Eve. My children are out at parties. I am enjoying a quiet evening at home with my knitting and writing, wondering if I am motivated enough to organize my closet, knowing I’ll probably just do needlework and watch the Walking Dead marathon. As I type this, I have a small but solid devil on one shoulder, whispering re-runs of all the horrific news this year, reminding me that my children aren’t safe, that terrible things happen at parties, during celebrations, at schools, at movie theaters, at malls… that I should shelter them under my wings and never let them wander outside my shadow. I struggle with this devil. I try not to be overprotective. It’s a battle I’ve been fighting for twenty years. I try to remember that my children aren’t just young, that they’re clever, that they’re strong. Most of the time the angel on the other shoulder wins. I kiss my children as they walk out the door and smile as they drive away. The angel stays firmly in place most of the time.
Sometimes the devil wins. Sometimes I am so afraid, I can’t get a full breath in my lungs. My blood runs cold, my hands shake. Sometimes fear wins. It’s not that fear is new to me. You learn to live with fear when you are a mother. It’s the cost of admission. You learn to walk that proverbial razor’s edge, knowing that potential sorrow and potential loss walk with you, that you absolutely will not recover if balance is lost, if something happens to your child.
I have gained and lost many things in my forty years, had my life honed to a narrow path, and I have learned what is important to me. Here’s my line in the sand: that my children are happy and safe, everything else is negotiable. Happy comes and goes, so their safety is really the only thing; that they are alive and healthy and free to figure out their own lines in the sand, work out their own priorities, their own roads.
I have the blessing of being the mother of a beautiful, almost too pretty to be real, gay transgender son. I have the blessing of being the mother of a beautiful, almost too pretty to be real, teen daughter. According to the world, according to the news stories, my children have giant, red targets painted on their backs and it is just a matter of time before some terrible statistic happens to them.
So like any mother, I worry. Unlike any other mother, I specifically worry about about madmen hunting and torturing LGBTQ teens, about rapists passing around unconscious teen girls, about things I never could have imagined in my worst nightmares. I stopped watching the news last year. I couldn’t take it. I’ve talked to other mothers, moms of LGTBQ kids, moms of teen girls, all kinds of moms, and they are fearful, too. A lot of them have stopped watching the news as well.
However, unlike me, most of them are not on Tumblr, and I tell them they are missing out, that it is a little different here. I tell them it’s hard to explain. They are on Facebook, on Pinterest, on Instagram, but they’ve heard things about Tumblr so they stay away. It’s not perfect. There are morons here but there are morons everywhere, and trolls here, just like everywhere else online. There’s stuff here that drives me nuts and stuff here that makes me shake my head. But here’s the main thing I find here, day after day: HOPE.
When people write derogatory stories about the Millennial Generation, it makes me angry. It is witless and lazy to point fingers at the younger kids and make lists about their shortcomings. It was boring when our grandparents did it and it’s boring now. Yes, yes, they’re different from us, their music is strange, their art is provocative and their values are not what they used to be. Which makes me say THANK GOD FOR THAT. Thank God things aren’t the way they used to be. I knew two gay kids in high school, one died of AIDS, one committed suicide. There was no Pride club, no official stance on bullying, on hate crimes. I knew girls who had been raped; they didn’t file police reports. They knew the status quo, they knew they would be vilified, that the rapist would get a slap on the wrist and a talk about girls not knowing their own minds.
THANK GOD FOR THIS GENERATION. Or thank the universe and all its awesome science. Whichever you prefer. This is the generation that said, “Hey, you’re transgender and gay? Not a problem, and frankly, not the most interesting or important thing about you. Pull up a chair and tell us what IS important and interesting about and to you.” This is the generation that refused to ignore rape. The generation that said NO MORE, not on our watch. The generation that is more comfortable with their own sexuality, and the many shades and degrees therein, who understand the difference between gender and sexual identity, who’ve learned in record time about concepts like consent and patriarchal oppression, about healthy relationships, about what constitutes abuse.
This generation is so damn smart. I am so proud of you guys. You are the generation that grew up talking intelligently about the balance of power, gender definitions, and racial divisions and equality with the same ease that you grew up online, and these are complicated issues that have defeated many older people. This is the generation that passes around anti-suicide messages and hang in there messages. This is the generation that said “If you’re feeling down, I’m here. Message me. I’m here for you.”
You are the generation that uses technology and information, words and pictures as skillfully as surgeons and warriors and soldiers in a crusade to make the world a better place than the one you inherited. Many people try to start revolutions; you kiddos are living one. Whenever I start to panic, to let fear lead me, to derail me from being the best parent I can be, I am often reminded of things I have seen and read on Tumblr, and believe it or no, it actually helps me regain my equilibrium. I remember that there are really smart, really good, really brave kids who, by their very existence, keep my kids safe and respected. Thank you for that. Thank you so so very much for that, for taking care of each other, for easing each other’s burdens. You ease my burden. You give me hope for a better world, a world of inclusion and acceptance. World building is happening, right here, right now. It’s amazing to witness.
I don’t want to hear any more nonsense putting the Millennial Generation down. I don’t want to read any more click bait type headlines about how this is the most entitled, laziest, most anti-social, etc, generation. If you see that crap, you tell them to come talk to me. You and I will have cookies while they sit on the Naughty Step until they stop telling lies.
Hey. Hey you guys. MILLENNIAL GENERATION. You’ll want to read this.
This one’s for us.
Seriously, this is so important. We make more of a difference than we sometimes realize.
Keep fightin’ the good fight. We matter.
Tonight moving into Tuesday is supposed to be pretty fucking bad, you guys. The US hasn’t seen temperatures like this in decades (with windchills some places are looking at being -30°F or -40°F) and a lot of snow is going to be falling on top of everything else. When you add this to high winds conditions are going to be just plain dangerous.
PLEASE STAY SAFE.
This is some seriously heavy shit. There are all kinds of things that you can do to stay warm. Bundle up. This isn’t really a time to skimp out on heating your house. If you are worried about your pipes freezing, allow your faucets to drip a tiny bit at all times. If you have heat tape, plug it in. But most of all. Please don’t drive in these conditions. A lot of places have already put driving bans in place and I can’t stress enough that they are there for a reason.
Stay warm, everyone. Stay safe. Also please spread this around so that people understand just how serious things are going to be. Some places may experience power outages and that is terrifying with these conditions. Tell your friends. Be informed. Pay attention to what your local stations are saying.
Hello americans, as a Canadian I have some tips for dealing with the cold. First is that if your power goes out and you don’t know when it will be back on the best thing to do is immediately go and use the hot water and put some in a thermos for later on. If you have camping gear I suggest you get it out so that you can use the sleeping bags to keep warm. If your house gets cold enough for water to freeze then when you go to bed I suggest actually putting some water in a container in your fridge, fridges are well insulated and even though it will make the water cold compared to normal room temperature the fridge temperature should be high enough to prevent it from freezing. If you have a dog or cat letting it share the bed with you is a very good way to keep both of you warm, if they are under the covers they can help heat it up. Give all hamsters/mice/rodents extra bedding so they can stay warm. Personally I put some toilet paper or kleenex in for my hamster because it’s a good insulator and it doesn’t get tangled in their feet, but only use stuff that isn’t medicated because that might hurt them. Dress in as many layers as you can and use thicker clothing made of fabrics like cotton. Decide which rooms you want to keep warm and close the doors to all other rooms to prevent heat loss from the others, if you can have everyone sleep in the same room do it, that will keep people warmer. If you are already using all the blankets you can also use towels to help keep warm. If the sun is out open your drapes so the sunlight can help heat the room, if the sun isn’t out close them tightly to prevent further heat loss. Don’t let yourself overheat until you sweat though, once the sweat cools it will be very hard to warm yourself back up again, also don’t let yourself get cold because of how hard it is to warm up in these conditions. I think that’s about everything so stay safe and stay indoors.
Happy 160th Birthday, Sherlock Holmes!
"My name is Sherlock Holmes. It is my business to know what other people don’t know."
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